Wednesday, July 9, 2014

Why Adopt When You Can't Afford It?

 After reading so much on the subject, one person puts it in print very well about "why adopt"? And this is our version.

Five thoughts on adopting, when you can't afford it:

1.) AFFORDING AN ADOPTION IS NOT THE SAME AS AFFORDING A CHILD - Our family lives frugally. Old house, old cars, no cable, sell all that we don't need. We've been learning and are still learning more and more ways to save before we purchase things. Living this lifestyle makes it very possible to afford more children on a day to day basis, along with any medical needs our child will need. Affording an adoption is different - because all monies are required in a very short amount of time, and it is usually VERY big chunks of money up front. We trust God, the one who opened the door in the first place. He will finish and complete this work, through the whole process. He is faithful.

2.) IT'S ALL THE LORD'S ANYWAY - We know how hard it is to ask others for their help. Though it is one of the most uncomfortable and very humbling positions we've ever been in.  But by doing so, we realized we are allowing and encouraging others to do what we as Christians are already commanded to do. {1 John 16-18} We are giving others a position to help an orphan. When we do this. It's so easy to advocate {speak up} for orphans, the unborn, the widow, the weak and the poor. But true advocating looks much differently when we aren't just speaking in word or in tongue. It's when we actually get our hands dirty doing the work. Our homes, vehicles, money, our everything is the Lord's anyway. It's all been given to us on loan so to speak. Should any of us be holding so tightly to what the Lord has given to us so freely to help others? He blesses way beyond when we sacrifice and give to others. Be it in our homes, or through giving.
3.) DEPEND FULLY ON GOD - AND WATCH HIM WORK  God wants nothing more then us to depend fully on Him, every step of the way! When my husband and I do this, we've been brought to literal tears. Because He is so very faithful! Part of depending on God is being wise with what we've been given. I love giving gifts to my children. I LOVE watching their eyes light up. God does the same thing! Often times when we least expect it. God has been providing for our adoption needs, and they are normally not early, but always right on time.On our last adoption we were $2,000 short 4 days before our flights, we received a call from a grant and they provided us with a check for $4,000 knowing we were only asking for $2,000. God is providing funds through people, through our fundraising efforts, our garden produce, auctioning off our personal items, garage sales, the funds never come early, but they never come late, just the right amount we need at the very time we need it. Always enough to help us out, but not enough to sit, relax or be lazy. It's good to keep working and be reminded we can't slack off, we continually depend on Him, but we still must work hard.
I can’t wait to tell our daughter how SO many people loved her before she was even placed in our family. Before we even knew her, people gave money, time, and prayer to help us bring her home. I can’t wait to tell her how God laid everything out for us, how He prepared people’s hearts ahead of time to give to our adoption. We pray she feels loved and extremely valuable. We will tell her about how much her birth mother loved her and chose to give her life. We pray our daughter will one day even through struggles and tears understand that her birth Mama made a decision of love, and that she was chosen for a new family and loved before she ever even arrived. We pray she will see her "birth story" saturated with God’s love and goodness.
 Some people will probably disagree with this but, we have found it to be good advice. Money is very important and affects almost every area of everyone's lives, but it should not be the main deciding factor when making a big life decision with God's work. If the only thing holding someone back from adopting is money, we'd like to encourage you strongly to reconsider. If you are wise with your finances, and you are living within your means, and your family seeks after God's will, takes care of what He's given you already, and you work hard and trust the Lord to open and close doors, to provide for your needs - then what's stopping you? Pray for wisdom, pray that God would open or close doors. Ask Him how you can you serve Him, with what you already have, and see what doors will open.
We are drawn toward adoption and especially toward Xiuyong. Don't ask us how or why but we truly love her before we know her. We have 7 grown children, all married except for one, and 14 grandchildren. We don't need all the material things, or vacations, or downtime as much as a child needs us. We are honored to be their parents. Please keep us in your prayers and consider donating. Your prayers are especially needed.  

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